Comment Archives: stories: Sex & Love: Savage Love
Re: “Failing grade”
Linda, re: Dan Savage.. he's a smart guy, sardonic in fashionable ways that makes for good copy, but ultimately retarded when it comes to being sacred about anything. And I don't say sacred as a projection of things I don't want to see, I mean it as a way to express a 'god-given' innocence that he will not allow other's to enjoy. It's hyper-awareness to dull the senses of pain, learned pain. One which we are all entitled to experience at our own pace. So, basically I agree with you.
Re: “Failing grade”
i believe this article is not for the public eye, you should have made your reply a private one.. my 14 yr old daughter brought this to me as she was reading the CL in a public place..
Re: “Bathroom break”
LAME, take it from a woman, the Savage man speaks the truth!
Re: “Sexual frustration”
I used to be so frustrated by never having an orgasm ... I could make myself have one, but never with my partner. You have to learn to just relax and enjoy the moment, not worry about the ending and just enjoy the moment. I don't remember when it happened, but when it did, there was no turning back!! Good luck
Re: “Talking Santorum”
You might want to actually watch the real conversation and video before you make such incompetent and biased statements. I may not be a supporter of Santorum but I watched the video of the conversation where you tried to imply that "Rick Santorum was nearly booed off a stage in New Hampshire last week after he insisted that legalizing gay marriage would lead to the legalization of polygamous marriage." It is simply not the truth. He was posing a question about constitutional rights that the questioner would not even discuss. http://youtu.be/CGzsHURVE7Q
Re: “Wedding bell blues”
Too Angry For Cute Acronyms,
Sorry but you should drop your BFF, I really hate saying that but those children our now your family. They are going to feel so left out if they don't get to be in their wedding, and they will blame you! They will think, on their own but I bet Mom will plant the idea also, that you didn't want them to be apart of it. You can try to rationalize it another way but I don't see it happening. If you were my best friend I would totally understand and support you. You don't want to start a new family that way.
Re: “Bad boyfriends and a dominant girl seeks young submissive”
I am male,19, and very submissive,and find only more mature females want to dominate me????
dave1@live.ie
Re: “Out on campus”
I'm ten years this kids senior and I wish I had read something like this when I was his age. I'm just now coming to terms with my sexuality and those same pressures stick with you once you grow up if you don't find a way to deal with them.
Re: “Sexual frustration”
I have hope for this gal! Because whats the point if you can't get off?? I wonder if she is on anti-depressants? That stuff seems to keep the oragasm imprisoned. From personal experience as well as other people I know way too much about,(male and felmale). Also, if she's stressing over it, the big O will never come. Good luck to her!!!
Re: “Sometimes I fantasize about having sex with my twin sister”
That's Lynn S. Adelman of Milwaukee, Wisconsin. The "S" stands for sado-masochist. I met him in a gay bar in downtown Milwaukee, and he is one hostile dude. He took me on the ride of my life. I don't think I'll ever recover from Lynn S. Adelman, a vicious creep and sexual sadist!
Re: “Sometimes I fantasize about having sex with my twin sister”
Lynn Adelman is well known in Milwaukee, Wisconsin as a self-proclaimed gay man who extols the virtues of alternative sexual lifestyles. Lynn Adelman feels that Milwaukee, Wisconsin needs to be enlightened about acceptance of gay rights and gay marriage. Lynn Adelman is a former politician and is highly respected in Milwaukee political circles.
Re: “Sometimes I fantasize about having sex with my twin sister”
Lynn Adelman of Milwaukee, Wisconsin lectures on sexual deviations at UW Milwaukee and has written dissertations on incest, anal sexuality and gay marriage. Lynn Adelman has experience in the legal field and in local politics.
Re: “Mother's milk”
so you have a lactation fascination huh? you could always try it out when she's at the doctors or visiting ben and jerrys to try and satisfy a 'pistachio nut on dill pickle' ice cream craving.
just get yourself a half gallon of milk, warm it up in the microwave, and then pour it over yourself while standing in the shower. if you get off on that then it's obvious you need to talk to her about it again. and if you don't get off then you need to talk to her about it again and tell her she was right. please do not try to hide it from her because when the shower starts smelling of sour milk she may pick up on your freakiness.
Re: “Safety first”
PS. sugarbaby gay dude... there is in fact a sure way to have 100% safe sex with someone who is HIV positive - and that would be from a distance - it's called phone sex.
Re: “Safety first”
Hmmm, it's apparent that you have quite the quandry going on here, but mostly it's in your image of yourself.
heteroflexible? what the heck is that? look dude, let's put the matter to bed by saying it out loud. you're gay. you don't play for the heterosexual community anymore. perhaps if you said you were with one guy, maybe even two different men, then we might buy the notion that you're bi-sexual. but you're sexing a handful of guys? It is obvious to all who read this that you're merely a homosexual in denial. Sorry dude, but someone had to tell you - and obviously the several gay dudes you're boinking don't want to burst your bubble for fear that you'll go nuts on them. But I'll tell you straight up - you are gay. Now go start a flower shop or frizz someones hairdo.
Re: “Too much of a good thing”
good grief. whether you understand this or not, you've given her your blessing and permission to have sex with other guys, and the jealousy and paranoia you'll soon be experiencing may ruin your marriage. face the fact that it was a mistake to bring someone else into your bedroom - and a friend no less? just what were you thinking? and what will you think when this friend stops by your house to 'see you' ? and what must he think of you who was willing to share like a power tool, the most sacred and intimate part of your life with someone else? if you want to spice up your sex life, you consider bringing in a new toy into the bedroom, not a new boy.
you should talk to your wife about this matter and agree that it was a major mistake and should never happen again. as for the friend, unless he is a great lifelong friend you can talk openly to about how you're feeling, that relationship may have to end - hopefully he won't air your dirty laundry in the streets.
then get yourselves to church - together, and build your relationship with each other up rather than tearing it down with others. you are a couple, not a trio, that was your promise to each other and your vow before God and man. so get down to business and work on this marriage if you love each othyer and realize that the substance of your relationship is not centered around your orgasms.
Re: “My husband wants me to sleep with other men and sleep with me right afterwards”
I have been in an open marriage for 16 years, I the wife being the non-monogomous one because my husband gets off to the idea of me sleeping with others. I had to finally put a stop to it, I just can't do it anymore knowing deep down it wasn't in my morals and this many years of doing it has made me feel terrible about myself. Now that I have said no more to my hubby, he is resentful and angry at me. Once I said yes, there was no turning back once the first deed was done. Plus, if the relationship was a long term one with an outside guy I could develop feelings for them and obviously this isn't healthy. Watch what you start, it's definitely like opening pandoras box.
Re: “Urban Explorer 4.0: The top sex and love sites”
A recent study conducted has shown that 85% of men polled wish that their penises were larger. Of that 85%, the research concluded, 99.9% of the men could actually increase the length and girth of their penises by taking herbal supplements.
http://www.male-sexual.com
Re: “I'm cheating on my husband whose dying of cancer”
justification of adultery doesn't need a reason, they've already made up thier mind. I just thought about all the ghost shows and groups that swear by thier evidence that they saw and felt a person who is dead. I believed it myself once and actually had what I thought was a encounter with a dead person. Until I did some real homework, I mean that I think people want to believe a lie to support thier own desires no matter what the cost. my soon to be ex wife believes in her adultery as a fair and justified crusade where nobody but her own desires matter.
Re: “Failing grade”
Why is your daughter on a site you haven't taken the time to approve? She is 14 and everything is easily accessible on the internet. You should be watching what she is looking at and regulating it. It's not hard to do. This article is helpful to many people, and opens the eyes of others. I am sorry your daughter saw something you view as inappropriate, but what was she doing looking at the sex and love page in the first place? Maybe you need to have a more in depth conversation with her.