As someone who dates often and has no issues with low self-esteem, for some reason I find it increasingly difficult to keep the standard of guys I date above laughable. I actually had a friend say, “Well at least this one doesn’t live with his parents and has a car.”
As a successful woman in her late 20’s, why should I be digging in the trenches for a date? Perhaps because the majority of men my age are tragically still in the trenches.
Recently I have found myself paying for dates, buying small trinkets and sending sexually explicit texts. In essence, I am doing all the courting. If we are slowly becoming the “men” in the relationship, why don’t we take advantage of our new position?
If we are going to be forced to act like men, we might as well enjoy the benefits of filling this role. If I have to listen to you wax poetic about the high paying careers you could theoretically have, or how you are thinking about going back to school to get your law degree, and then I pick up the check, I expect at least a solid 30 minutes of oral as a thank you. If I am going to buy you that new Chromatics on vinyl, I expect you to cook, clean, get me a drink on command, and then put on, “something a little more sexy” when you’re done.
Women, we need to wake up and start taking advantage of our role as sugar mamas. We’ve been filling the shitty part of both gender roles for too long without reaping any of the rewards.
It is time we rise up. Say it with me. “I will no longer be the financial, successful aspect of the male and the demur, cooking, cleaning sex goddess of a woman in every relationship." Men, choose the sex you want to be, then do it right.