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Wednesday, August 26, 2009
No room for jealousy among swingers
Posted by Rebecca Ammon on Wed, Aug 26, 2009 at 10:30 AM
When jealousy rears its ugly head during sex, nothing good will come of it. People enter the swinging lifestyle for different reasons. Unfortunately some believe swinging will save their marriage. Such a desperate move usually only promotes jealousy--a surefire relationship killer.
In the swinging lifestyle you have to accept that your partner will be attracted to others. Deal with it. Before meeting for sex, you should talk to potential sex partners about potential sex. Some may need to find comfort before hooking up with a complete stranger. This should come as no surprise. Comfort may come from talking in a bar, restaurant, on a computer, or on the telephone. If your partner gets jealous of you for just talking about sex with a potential play partner, your relationship isn't ready for the swinging lifestyle.
Jealously also occurs during a hookup. Maybe one partner isn't getting the same amount of attention as the other. This may cause drama during the sex act - a big problem for the other couple. This will also lead to a negative label in swinger circles. No one wants to fuck a drama queen.
I was once in a swinging situation where we were having sex on separate beds. The guy jumped off me and went over to his wife who had just finished Soccer Dad. He was worried she would be jealous of the two of us still going at it, so he thought he would finish with her. Soccer Dad and I won't see this couple again.
Even after a night of partner swapping for seasoned swingers, jealousy may still come up. One partner wasn't pleased with the night, one partner felt left out... You must be fully capable of sharing your partner before even entertaining the idea of swinging.
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Yes it's true but the partners involved sometimes can have quite intense chemistry which most do not anticipate. I have experienced this firsthand. I must say it is quite a turn on to watch for a bit after you finish and they keep going but then when you realize they are really into it and are prolonging it to keep the satisfaction continued, it can start to bug you. After all, your sexual arousal is now satisfied so this sight of your partner with another person which was once so interesting and arousing, is now rage inducing...it happens.
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