- Field Day |
- Buildings Alive |
- Visions |
- CLGBT |
- Green Community |
- Fun & Free S#!T |
- Crossword |
- CL Space |
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Are you having an affair and don't know it?
Posted by Rebecca Ammon on Tue, Jul 21, 2009 at 10:27 PM
Swingers are often stereotyped as having lascivious affairs, but depending on what you consider cheating, almost everyone is having some type of affair.
For me, an affair isn't necessarily a physical relationship; it can be an emotional connection as well. Depending on who you are, either connection can constitute an affair.
By this definition I have both emotional and physical affairs. I'm not in love with these people; some are friends that I share a side of myself with that I don't share with everyone. Others I just have sex with and don't care if I ever see again.
I have chatted with one particular man online now for several years. I have no plans of running away with him, and the likelihood of ever meeting in person is slim at best. Is this an emotional affair? Maybe, but does it hurt anyone--not really.
A fellow contributor recently wrote about infidelity and the fact that no matter who you are, "cheating" isn't as uncommon as some think. What exactly is infidelity, monogamy, or marital bliss? Does anyone really experience these completely?
At times I need to feel the touch of another person who isn't my husband. I like the thrill of someone new. I'm excited by the thought of anticipated sex and the desire it stirs in me. This is part of the relationship I chose to have with my spouse and it works for us. We talk openly about our desires in regards to others both in and out of bed. We have physical and emotional relationships with others, but we always come home to each other. That's why we work. We aren't trying to sneak around on each other and we don't fall in love with outsiders. What we do, we do in front of each other. Does this mean I'm having an affair? Maybe my whole life is a type of affair, but then so might yours. At least I'm honest about mine.
Latest in Daily Loaf
-
Another Mitt flip-flop? 2010 interview reveals praise for individual mandate
The Supreme Court might take the issue off the table for the election, but Congressional Republicans seem intent on doing whatever they can to put the issue on the ballot in November.
-
GOP holding up unemployment benefits for recipients who don't have a GED
The GOP also wants to include urine testing for anyone requesting unemployment benefits.
-
The push for a public referendum on the Pier is not dead
Critics of razing the iconic structure are still hoping to put a measure on the ballot this year allowing citizens to weigh in on the future of the Pier.
- More »
Author Archives
-
Rebecca Ammon recovers from two nights at the swingers club, Miami Velvet
-
The truth in online dating profiles
They could have been the parents of the 30-something couple we thought we were meeting.
-
Your INKspiration: What inspired your tattoo?
- More »
Top Commenters
Comments (0)