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Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Man manual: the body blunder
Posted by InnocentUWish on Tue, Jun 30, 2009 at 7:08 PM
For those who don't know me, my head is always in the gutter; hell I rent out the sewer! I'm blunt when it comes to sex and relationships! Lately I've been dealing with all my girlfriends' drama and issues, but I've become aggravated when they don't listen. To save me many hours spent half listening to girlfriends cry into their phones over ruined relationships while shoveling comfort foods, I've decided to catalog my dating advice for you to flip through at will. Think of it as an encyclopedia for dealing with and dating men.
For my first entree I tackle the blunder of asking your man stupid questions about your appearance.
The Body Blunder:
Men don't focus on our flaws as much as we think. Other women may, but men are more interested in what's on TV. They certainly aren't gonna notice that your hair is limp, or that you have a new blemish. Guess what? Your man didn't notice that zit on your chin until you pointed it out to him and asked if it was noticeable. Even if he did notice the cellulite on your ass, your asking him about it puts him in an impossible position. If he tells you your perfect you call him a liar and if he agrees with you then he's screwed!
By asking him about your imperfections, not only are you reminding him that your body is buffet of flaws, but you're being insecure--which is the definition of unsexy. If your man doesn't like your thick thighs then he can be a man and tell you about it, or he can break up with you if he's that superficial. The bottom line is that he is choosing to be with you, and your flaws.
If you think your ass is fat, it probably is. You don't need a second opinion. You can decide to loose weight, or just accept your flaws and be confident in yourself. Him lying to you about your imperfections is only going to piss you off, and make you feel even more unsexy and angry.
My advice. Spend less time freaking out over stupid SHIT! You worrying about whether he'll leave you over those new stretch marks will only add friction to your relationship, which in turn increases the chances that he'll leave you. He spends so much time telling you your beautiful and you spend even more time arguing with him that he's wrong!
Learn to be confident. No one is flawless, including your man! He loves you for you and if he doesn't then you don't need him.
Please leave a comment with suggestions for my next instalment of the Man Manual
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great column! Welcome to Creative Loafing. If you need any help with movies let me know. As a man, (and I'm going with good lookin) I totally agree with this. I don't even know what "limp hair" is, let alone care. I would say I love womens flaws as much as their perfections! So, I can't wait for the next edition!
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Hey! I enjoyed the artical. You sure no your shit. I try to tell em... Ill pass this on to my friends thanks alot! Very, very funny, and hella entertaining!
Well done but there is of course the possibility that a man is interested in whats going on in his girl's head. Depending on the man....and the girl.
Very good points...LOL...Men remember this...goes both ways...don't ask if you don't want the truth :).
Interesting artical, I do feel the same way toward your points. As a man, i dont really look at the flaws, aslong as there personality shines through them. Great article and cant wait for the next 1 !
You are all forgetting one important, sad fact, which is that there ARE men out there who not only notice the limp hair and the facial blemish, but who will actually bring it up to their girls, expecting them to do something about it, or else. You know who I'm talking about: the guy who gripes continually about how fat his girl has become and then you meet her and see that she's a size four. I think most of these guys live in California! ;)
Very nice Article, I myself love a women for who she is inside not what is on the outside.Please do more articles.
Loved your Article as I read it a women to me means more inside then what is on the outside,Great article will be looking for more.
Loved your Article, I myself love what is in a persons heart not what her appearance is, Great Article cant wait for many more.
i loved and i'm agree with your thoughts, but i wanna add one more thing..even if you know that your gf/bf loves you very much and you think he/she doesn't care about how you look-like , you still need to cover your imperfections..for example , you will meet your bf/gf soon and you know you are sweaty and a lil bit stinky, you know you need a shower.If you think, he/she loves me very much and will not care whether you're stinking or not , so it's no need to be prepared for him/her.This is one of the biggest mistakes that people do in their relationships..I say , no matter how much your lover admires you , you still need to look-like your best and prepare like you are gonna meet your first date!
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