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Monday, June 15, 2009
Progression of a swinger's "date": strangers, friends, sex partners
Posted by Rebecca Ammon on Mon, Jun 15, 2009 at 8:00 AM
It’s a simple progression: strangers, friends, sex partners. We went out the other night to meet a new couple (the Smiths) whom we met on a swingers dating website. The selection process on this type of website is similar to other online regular dating services. Couples or singles complete a profile, provide pictures, and commence browsing.
After exchanging a few emails, we set a date. So Friday night we meet at a local restaurant. As on most of our swinger dates, small talk turns to stories, which inevitably gets the energy flowing. Most the stories told are of bad experiences; like the time we met a couple at a local restaurant and the woman shows up in leopard print spandex pants and stripper shoes, that just screams out "We are SWINGERS!" We are at a family restaurant people - not a bar; let’s try to keep the attire normal, please. Anyway, small talk lightens the mood and helps the conversation move with virtual strangers and potential sex partners. Entertainment aside, the decision has been made to go to a local bar for a few drinks. Drinks tend to further loosen everyone up a bit and soon the conversations turn to flirting, kissing and borderline inappropriate behavior in public.
Finally we decide to move to a third location (we could call this the bar hopping date). We agree to go to a local ‘private club’ which can be described as a bottle club (a.k.a.: a meat market) and private area (voyeurism, exhibition, and sex). The cost for a couple is normally $50 to get in; more for single men and less for single women. We hang out at the bar for a while drinking with the Smiths and eventually move to the private area. The halls are lined with rooms containing beds and couches, along with various couples and singles hoping to either jump in on some action or peek through the curtains of a room. We settle on one room with two beds, curtains drawn, and door closed. I personally enjoy the exhibition part of swinging, but not everyone is comfortable in that type of situation. There the four of us stand, ready to jump into action in this tiny, half-walled room. Mr. Smith sits down on a chair next to the bed and I oblige with proper etiquette as does Soccer Dad (my husband) and Mrs. Smith on the bed.
Normally couples consist of two types of people: aggressor and non-aggressor. I am the aggressor in our relationship and never shy to get things started. I dive right into the fun with Mr. Smith. The enjoyment rolls along with foreplay, dominance, me on top, him on top, submissive behavior - all in good fun.
Sex with a new partner is always exciting. The first kiss sends chills down my spine, the excitement of foreplay and the exhilaration of the first penetration. Not every experience is good, but the sex with a stranger has its own thrill that is far different than the norm!
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We have been swingers for over 6 years and have met great friends in the lifestyle. There is a great website called www.PlayLounge.com where we are able to find real couples who enjoy swinging.
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We have been swingers for over 6 years and have met great friends in the lifestyle. There is a great website called www.PlayLounge.com where we meet real couples who enjoy swinging.
LOL Spammers got to love it ..! quick to want to sell the product short on selling the value...! There are many swingers websites out on the net that are just full of fake profiles looking for nothing more then anything but money and quite frankly many just take advantage of swingers for the sake of nothing more then cash and its quite frustrating for those of us that are REAL swingers trying to meet other REAL swingers. We are the REAL DEAL and have been swingers for over 10 years and hosted parties for many of those years and with that comes experience in how to find the REAL compatible couples and why we like http://www.GEOSwingers.com . The truth about meeting one on one is great if you hit the lottery with a couple but the odds are slim that the 4 way chemistry will be just right and things unfold with the excitement that is in the article. Years and years of experience as well as hosting parties and comparing notes while meeting thousands of other like-minded swingers at different events tells me this is a great story but not so likely to happen that way very often. In reality what happens with many websites you meet so called swingers and you find you can exchange tons of emails only to find one of several things happen. 1. They are not REAL and it was a single guy acting as couple so no date night ever comes to be. 2. They are a REAL couple but they are just doing nothing then playing email fantasy and you keep planning weekends only to start back at square one again. 3. They stand you up for the dinner date because they thought they had their wife convinced they were swingers. (LOL this is the best one) 4. You meet the new friends for dinner and they don't look at all like their photos as they were taken 15 years prior and even if they are current you find that the 4 way chemistry is just not there. They may be into you but not the other way around and the night is now over. If your a busy person that can get real old. 5. Last you meet for dinner everyone shows up and it appears you all have some 4 way chemistry but then you find that 1/2 of the couple has lied (normally the male) about the experience they really have and is kind of pushing the other 1/2 of the couple and drama breaks out. Dinner dates are great once you have already established the chemistry with a couple. However, we have found that you are better off to first start off with a trustworthy website like GEOSwingers.com and GEOSwingers.com is different and here is why....! At least you know what profiles are REAL and what profiles are not and if they even have the level of experience they claim to have in the first place. Here is a bit about how the REAL validation system works http://www.geoswingers.com/real-validations The owners of the site don't care about quantity instead they care about quality of REAL profiles with REAL people that actually come out to events. Why? because they are REAL swingers themselves. Next we would suggest to try and go to events and parties where you know there is not a lot of pushy play pressure but instead a lot of like-minded people that you can meet at one time. For example GEOSwingers.com holds a lot of these kind of events as well as other members list their parties and events too. On any given weekend you can normally find a good event to go to with GEO where you are going to be able to meet many different members and build the bond, trust and friendship that many REAL swingers have. For example when we meet people on GEO and get to know them online we tell them we are going to be at a given event and would like them to stop by and introduce themselves in person. This gives a NO COMMITMENT NIGHT and yet allows you to meet many others in the same night so you can find the couples that you do have the chemistry with. This way if things work with a couple you see there then that is great....! If they don't then you both move onto seeking couples you are more compatible with on a friendship and chemistry level. There is no other website that has in the local Tampa Bay area that does a better job at bringing TRUE REAL swingers together then GEOSwingers and they are expanding nationally very rapidly. I know they are also still offering an unlimited lifetime membership completely for free. But I am sure that is not going to be for much longer. Hope to see everyone over there and at the local events and parties they throw. One huge party called Naughty Summer Camp at a 5 start resort & Night Club they got coming up this Sat June 27th that everyone is talking about and I am sure if you are REAL then you will will be there too. If you are a member on GEO you can get in as a couple that night for only $40. Details about the event are on GEO so join today and we will see you online and at the party.
We have been members of many Swingers websites and I have only found one who will actually validate people only if they meet them in person. No, I don't work for the site or own it in any way. Just think it is a great place & it is free. It has been for us: http://www.geoswingers.com/?idFriend=560
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