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Monday, August 25, 2008
If not a bar... where?
Posted by Single White Female on Mon, Aug 25, 2008 at 6:01 AM
If I hear one more person tell me, “You aren’t going to meet your boyfriend in a bar,” I am going to punch someone in the gullet.
What the hell do the rest of you people do? I am twenty… umm… something years old (gotta rock the anonymity) and frankly I am not about to join a fucking “networking after work” group in order to meet some buttoned-up douchebag who wants to turn me into Betty fucking Crocker.
Yes, this topic upsets me.
I wouldn’t say I spend a whole lot of time in bars… more like 1-2 times a weekend I can be found in some shithole establishment where I am most apt to find cute boys with tattoos and an affinity for thrift store plaid. Now the question remains, WHY can’t one of these viable candidates be my next boyfriend? What is it about the experience of going to a bar that suddenly turns a normal guy outside of the door into a demonic womanizer once inside? I honestly don’t see a difference.
My family claims that I should meet boys elsewhere, and I always wait patiently for alternatives to no avail. This isn’t 1920… there are no goddamn mixers and furthermore, if there were, I wouldn’t be caught dead at one and neither would my future guitar-strumming, Palahniuk-reading, plaid-wearing hunk of a future best boyfriend, ever!
Shall I spend my days looking lost in a Barnes n’ Noble by the autobiographies? Should I watch my food start to decay in my grocery cart whilst trying to decipher if you are buying those diapers for your kid or your mother whom you so nobly take care of? Should I purchase a fixed gear bike and try to get myself killed in traffic so that you can ride to my rescue on your valiant no-gear-having steed?
I don’t think so.
I have limited time, people. It would be a LOT more convenient if you just stopped that whole transition to demon before entering the tavern door and possibly approached gently as I talk to some friends.
I’m the same person by a beer tap that I am when wearing my douchebag pencil shirt with coordinated print button-up (yes, my job requires that I remove all materials that reveal any personality). So why is it so inconceivable that I would meet a guy in the same circumstances who isn’t planning on slipping me ruffies?
Where did this concept come from? I would really like to know.
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have you thought about meeting a boy doing something thast you really enjoy doing? IM not sure what it is about guys and bars, but I will tell you, many go to bars for the purpose of one thing...
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Agree with the previous comment...there's got to be something you like to do besides hang out in bars...and if not, there should be...stop trying so damn hard and just go have fun...chances are you'll meet a guy who enjoys the same thing...then you'll have more to talk about than your last hangover
I love how it's assumed that because I chose to socialize in bars, that I drink to the point of slurs and hangovers. On the contrary, I actually DO NOT drink. I chose to go to such places because the majority of my friends do drink, and this is where we chose to socialize... As for other things I like to do, obviously one of them is blogging...not exactly a hot "dating scene" ... any other suggestions kids?
Perhaps this will (kind of) answer your question: http://www.advicegoddess.com/ag-column-archives/2008/08/meating-people.html
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